Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence

ዯ i like reading Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence because ጲ By Lawrence J Cohen ፮ ዯ i like reading Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence because ጲ By Lawrence J Cohen ፮ CHAPTER 1THE VALUE OF BEING A PLAYFUL PARENTPlay is the essence of life.Think about the loving gaze of an infant, the no holds barred embrace of a toddler, the intimacy of a shared bedtime story, or a silent hand in hand walk These moments of heartfelt connection with our children are part of the great payoff for the hard work of parenting Yet this connection all too often eludes us We find ourselves locked in battle instead of joined in partnership We all know the rest the inconsolable baby, the toddler in the throes of a tantrum, the third grader in a huff over bedtimes, the twelve year old sulking in her room.Childrens natural exuberance and exploration often gives way to what I call fighting and biting Or they hide themselves behind a Gameboy or a locked door Meanwhile, our profound feeling of parental love is replaced by resentment and aggravation, even rage We nag or punish, or we say, Fine, stay in your room We yell when we reach the end of our rope, or just out of habit All because we feel helpless, rejected, and cut off We want to reconnect, as much as our children do, but we dont know how We still love them, but we barely remember those melting eye gazes of babyhood If we do remember, it is a bittersweet memory, as if that closeness were lost forever.Playtogether with what I call Playful Parentingcan be the long sought bridge back to that deep emotional bond between parent and child Play, with all its exuberance and delighted togetherness, can ease the stress of parenting Playful Parenting is a way to enter a childs world, on the childs terms, in order to foster closeness, confidence, and connection When all is well in their world, play is an expansive vista where children are joyful, engaged, cooperative, and creative Play is also the way that children make the world their own, exploring, making sense of all their new experiences, and recovering from lifes upsets But play is not always easy for adults, because we have forgotten so much Indeed, children and adults often seem to reside in radically different worlds, even within the same household We find each others favorite activities boring or strange How can she spend all afternoon dressing up Barbies How can they sit around all evening just talking Parenting and playfulness can seem like contradictions, but sometimes we just need a little push to find one another and have fun together I was at an outdoor concert, dancing off on the side with my nine year old daughter, when a mother and son came over to the dance area She started dancing a little, but he just stood with his arms folded, a little too shy to dance now that he was there He was about six or seven His mother said, starting to get angry, You dragged me up here, and now youre not going to dance He folded his arms tighter and literally dug his heels in I thought, We can all see where this is going I said, Oh no, hes doing a new dance, and I folded my arms just like his and gave him a big smile He smiled back and moved his hands to a different position, which I copied His mom caught on right away and started copying him, too We all laughed He started moving his shoulders up and down to the music, and his mother said, Youre dancing Then he started to dance, and he had a great time We all did including my daughter, who waited patiently while I did the Playful Parenting thing, and then wanted my complete attention again A little playfulness turned the tide.This small episode demonstrates that Playful Parenting can happen anywhere and anytime, not just during designated playtimes Playful Parenting begins with play, but it includes much from comforting a crying baby to hanging out at the mall from waging pillow fights to taking the training wheels off the bicycle from negotiating rules to dealing with the emotional fallout of a playground injury from getting ready for school to listening to a childs fears and dreams before bed Sadly, these simple interactions can seem out of reach sometimes, or full of complications and hard feelings.The fact is, we adults dont have much room in our lives for fun and games Our days are filled with stress, obligations, and hard work We may be stiff, tired, and easily bored when we try to get on the floor and play with childrenespecially when it means switching gears from a stressful day of work or household chores We might be willing to do what they wantlike the mom at the outdoor concert, abovebut then we get annoyed when they dont play the way we expect or when they demand too much from us.Others of us may be unable to put aside our competitiveness or our need to be in control We get bored, cranky, and frustrated were sore losers we worry about teaching how to throw the ball correctly when our child just wants to play catch We complain about childrens short attention spans, but how long can we sit and play marbles or Barbies or Monopoly or fantasy games before we get bored and distracted, or pulled away by the feeling that getting work done or cooking dinner is important When my daughter was in preschool, she made up a great game that helped me be playful instead of shouting at her to hurry up and get ready One morning she came downstairs, hid behind the doorway, and whispered to me, Pretend that Im still upstairs and that were really gonna be late and youre really mad So I shouted upstairs, Were late, and I am really mad and I started storming around and stamping my foot Meanwhile, she was behind the door giggling, her hand over her mouth I said, You better get down here, or Im leaving without you Im going to go by myself to Big Oak Preschool She started laughing out loud, so I pretended I couldnt hear her While letting her sneak out ahead of me, I made a big show of leaving the house without her, supposedly not noticing she was there She got in the car and I pretended I was talking to myself out loud, saying, I am so mad The teachers are going to say, Where is Emma And Im going to say, She wasnt ready, so I just left with out her She was giggling and giggling and trying not to let on that she was really there She was making getting ready for preschool fun for me Pretending to be mad helped me not to be really mad, and playing instead of shouting helped her get ready faster WHY CHILDREN PLAYSome children are leaders and some are followers some prefer fantasy dress up while others are drawn to ball games But virtually every child has an instinct for play that buds immediately after birth and is in full bloom by the age of two or three Play is possible anywhere and anytime, a parallel universe of fantasy and imagination that children enter at will For adults, play means leisure, but for children, play is like their job Unlike many of us adults, they usually love their work and seldom want a day off Play is also childrens main way of communicating, of experimenting, and of learning.A child who wont or cant play is instantly recognizable as being in significant emotional distress, like an adult who cant work or wont talk Severely abused and neglected children often have to be taught how to play before they can benefit from play therapy Why do we consider child labor such an abomination Because it means children grow up without having a childhood, without play Its even worse when their labor is exploited so that adults can have leisure, as depicted in this nineteenth century poem by Sarah Norcliffe Cleghorn The Golf Links Lie So Near the MillThe golf links lie so near the millThat almost every dayThe laboring children can look outAnd watch the men at play.Many experts describe play as a placea place of magic and imagination, a place where a child can be fully ones self As psychologist Virginia Axline wrote about children in preschool They can build themselves a mountain and climb safely to the top and cry out for all the world to hear, I can build me a mountain, or I can flatten it out In here, I am big 2 I had a great reminder of the basic nature of play at my daughters third birthday party I had organized all kinds of games to play in the park across the street from our house, and, of course, being a psychologist, I explained all of these complicated games to the children, who stood around looking at me as if I were from outer space I wasnt sure what to do The children were too revved up to go back inside, but they werent going for my games My wife interrupted and said, Okay, everybody, run to the other side of the park and back They all ran happily across the park, shrieking and laughing, then ran back and flopped on the ground, giggling and panting for breath They looked at me, and one boy asked, That was fun, can we do that again I got the point.Nevertheless, I cant quite stop talking about the serious side of play Play is fun, but it is also meaningful and complex The intelligent the animal, the it plays Unlike slugs or trees, every human learns new things about the world, and themselves, through discovery and practice Some of this learning just happens automatically, by virtue of being alive, but much of it happens through play Human childhood has gotten longer and longer, which means an increasing amount of time available for play Play is important, not just because children do so much of it, but because there are layers and layers of meaning to even the most casual play.Take an apparently simple game like catcha child and a parent tossing a baseball back and forth Much like observingA welcome reminder that the serious business of parenthood also can be fun Seattle Post IntelligencerA MAGICAL AND INSPIRING READ.MICHAEL THOMPSON, Ph.D Coauthor of Best Friends, Worst Enemies READING THIS BOOK, YOULL DISCOVER THAT YOU CAN BE CLOSER TO YOUR CHILDREN AND CAN ENJOY THEM MORE Youll learn what a difference play can make in your relationships and the kind of people your children will become And, most important, youll have fun Chicago Parent Playful Parenting An Exciting New Approach to Playful to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence by Lawrence J Cohen, PhD ABOUT about larry PhD the author of PLAYFUL PARENTING THE OPPOSITE OF WORRY, is a licensed psychologist specializing in children s play Parenting Chaos Early Education, Peaceful ParentingChaos all you your kids Activities for family, mom tested gear, recipes, advice make day run smoothly Wikipedia or child rearing process promoting supporting physical, emotional, social, intellectual development from infancy adulthood Christmas Kids Toddler Art Love this Christmas activity toddler art 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    • Playful Parenting: An Exciting New Approach to Raising Children That Will Help You Nurture Close Connections, Solve Behavior Problems, and Encourage Confidence
    • Lawrence J Cohen
    • Anglais
    • 05 March 2017
    • 322 pages

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